How can a big dude write romantic scenes Part 1

Don’t tell the ladies what I’m about to admit to, cause they’d thing I’m a wussy. You see, I’m a big country boy, always have been. Think of those things that characterize the traditional male physic, you know: hunting, fishing, sports, weight lifting, etc. Yeap that’s me. But I’m OK with that. I’m not brash, or rude, and I adore women. I just like things in life that anchor me to realism, and the roots from which I evolved and survived as a southern boy.

But when it comes to romance, I’m a softy, at least on the inside. I actually believe there are a lot of guys like me out there that think about romance in a positive light. Sure, we’re visual to the max. Show us curves, let the natural fragrance of a woman float by, let a soft set of fingers touch our arm, and we turn to jelly. And that’s the way the real big guy upstairs intended it to be so that women (the smaller of the species) would have control over the physically stronger male. And you do control us. Oh I know you don’t like to admit it, but imagine this. Men are driven by sex. We think about it constantly. Oh, women like it, but they don’t crave it all the time. With men it’s a hunger that runs through our mind dozens of times a day. With women, it’s a piece of hard rock candy (notice I didn’t say chocolate). They like it, but they don’t go around thinking, “Feed me, feed me.” That makes women the key masters to the gate way to pleasure. And us guys accept our position without reservation, we just wish you weren’t so stingy with the key.

That’s not to say I don’t have juicy thoughts, or get energetic behind closed doors, but I admire another dimension of the female mystic. I’m talking about that part I’ll never understand, that confuses the hell out of me, but makes me always feel warm inside when I’m around a feminine woman. Notice I said feminine woman. Unfortunately something has happened in out society to push both men and women apart. The media fosters an image of women that mirrors masculine characterizes (Two legislators come to mind). And some women just don’t give off a caring positive vibe that they actually like men. That’s why I adore those ladies that do exhibit natural feminine characteristics, and that are happy when they’re near you just because you’re a man.

That’s why I started writing novels with a romantic core. I figured in my make believe world, men and women would actually long for each other; not just for the physical, but that indefinable connection that exists between the masculine and feminine spheres of life. It’s what got us here as a species. I’m referring to that bond from which we gain emotional energy, and that makes many of us willing to trade our life for the opportunity to protect our soul mate. Over the next year I’ll share how I represent in my stories the relationships that many of us (men and woman) miss in modern life.  Remember they’ll be one man’s views of a time gone by, but it’s what I believe, what I experience with my soul mate, and what I pray for my kids and grand daughter.

Till next time, have a good one.