Signals

I think one of the most confusing and painful areas of gender miscommunication would be recognizing attraction signals. As a guy, when we’re interested in a woman, there is no confusion. No, I don’t mean when they’re disrobed, that’s uncontrollable primal response. I mean when we want to go further then just buds. Our language is clear, “Are you interested in a date”, “Like to go out sometime”, or the crude “Hey babe, lets wake up in the morning together.” But even our expressive outward signals are clear. We’ll scroll the body, try to whisper in the ear to see if we can penetrate her personal space, or a dozen other obvious signs, or ask to look at her fingernails for a moment (that was one of my favorites).

With women, it’s more subtle, hell, it’s down right foggy what message they’re sending. Now for a player (a guy that’s only looking to build up his list of conquests and expects three rejections for every successful penetration), he doesn’t give a hoot about rejection or insulting a woman; to him it’s part of the game. But for most men when they want more, and yet don’t want to appear forward, how do they tell if she is interested enough to risk the shoot down?

Before I started writing romantic suspense, I queried a dozen female friends for their insights, but their responses were clear as mud; a toss of the hair, a smile, crossing the legs, etc. So every time a woman does that, she’s interested? Lord did I miss out on a lot of opportunity. Point is, those signals are ambiguous to a guy that does not want to be offensive. My son once asked, “Dad is there any absolute signal that says she’s interested? My best advice was “Son, if she opens her personal sphere to include you, that’s a real good sign.” By that I meant, if she momentarily touches your shoulder, rubs your arm, tickles your back, stokes your leg, removes a non existent hair from your chest, any of those are strong, but not absolute signals.

Love to hear the counter point on this one, ladies.

Big Mike
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