In terms of men and women, I think the terms “Bad boys” and “Bad girls” are viewed differently. For a male, when they use the phase BG, they’re referring to a female that is at the extreme end of the spectrum in terms of their sexual desires and urges. Such females have few taboos if any, and sex is a central element to their lives. Turns out, those same characteristics (extreme sexual desires, few taboos, etc) describe most men, so the term BB must be different to a woman.
Now, I’m going to give it a shot, but I’m sure Candace will correct me since I am coming from a blind side. From what I’ve observed when young women refer to a BB, it’s someone that excites their physical drives via visual stimulation, appears aggressive or angry, someone they would enjoy a roll with, but would never consider viable material for a long term relationship, because such BB are all about the physical. To them the female is a receptacle, nothing more then a release. Crude, yes, but I presume that’s why they’re bad boys.
To a male a BG is also not commitment material, but for different reasons. In the traditional sense, the male attempts to select a life mate that he believes will remain true so that his efforts to provide for and secure the family are in deed in support of his own biological offspring. On the other hand, the woman always has the advantage of knowing the child burgeons from her genes, but she must insure her selection of a long term mate is aimed at a good provider and a protector, not someone that will plant and run. Indeed, I believe that the antenna of many young girls today has not been conditioned or mentored to recognize that a bad aggressive boy does not translate to a good mate. That’s why so many end up single mothers.
I’m sure others may disagree but that’s my take.
Big Mike
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It’s funny that you came up with this post just as I started outlining our next story together. In it, my new heroine recognizes a fault of hers – that is falling for the “bad boy” over and over again. She marries her bad body and of course it turns out bad.
Unfortunately, there are many real women who do the same. Maybe it is because the propensity for propagating the species is less strong in a woman, but many of them marry their bad boys; nearly 100% regret it, too.
My former best friend is the personification of this type of female. She so wanted her bad boy back (after the two of them breaking up about 5,000 times before) that she threw away all her close friendships and associations to be with him once again. Surprise, surprise, last I heard, the bad boy had dumped her yet again.
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The pysch profs call it self validation. You keep doing the same dumb/bad things because it validates you weren’t wrong in the first place. You know, the say way we got all these bad boobs in congress. People keep making the same mistake and putting em back in, that way they don’t have to admit to they did anything wrong in the first place.
Big Mike
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