One of the things Big Mike keeps talking about is how a man’s role is to be the “dragon slayer” for a woman.
I take exception to this because not every woman has a dragon that needs to be slain. There are many of us who are perfectly self-sufficient. For many years, I lived in a very rural setting all by myself and got along just fine; other years I lived in the big city by myself and never felt threatened there, either.
While I can understand Big Mike’s take on the “male role”, it just doesn’t always apply.
There are many things a woman can do to keep herself protected. She can learn self defense, she can buy a gun or a taser, she can own a big dog, and she can get a home security installed for ultimate peace of mind. In fact, Home Security Family offers home security systems for free when signing up for an ADT security monitoring system; if you sign up today at their ADT Security website, you receive a $100 rebate. What could be simpler?
None of these things requires a man in her life. Yeah, men are good for a few things, but they don’t always have to function as our protector. Some of us can take care of ourselves just fine, thank you.
And BTW, we don’t all worry about our butt looking too big…
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I guess at the heart of it you could ask why we need any relationships? You can do all of those things you mentioned completely by yourself but where’s the joy in that?
A relationship – friends, lovers, spouse, kids, co-workers, pets, etc – makes everything better. You have someone to share the ups and downs with, someone to lean on (not you need it but it sure is nice to have someone for that), someone to help you make things easier.
Going back to your circles post, this is where I can see circles applying. In all of these relationships we share parts of ourselves. With that special someone in our life, it’s like a Ven diagram (http://www.flickr.com/photos/thethinking/3629117669/) where all those circles or parts overlap.
David Boultbee
http://www.davidboultbee.com/blog
Are you sure you’re not Big Mike’s brother, David? You two sound an awful lot alike!
My point wasn’t to say women don’t need a relationship with a man – we just don’t need them to be a dragon slayer.
Nice analogy on relationships, though.
Thanks for sharing.
Davy
I beleive Candi is missing what’s being offered by the fact that two men share the same view. There are times when we write and she hammers me for something so I step back and try to see where its coming from. If I can anchor her response in some logic, some past injustice or cruelty at the hands of a jerk, then I mark it up to lessons learned and carry it in my book of “Things I didn’t know but should have”.
Whats the point? For a man to want to care for a women with all his heart, spirit, and very last breath, especially given how we’re hammmered in todays society and media, is a good thing, not bad. Its also becoming a rare attribute in the younger generation I think because young guys are being slammed so much.
I learned from reading two books from female authors that the heroine wanted to work side by side with the hero to overcome the obstacles put in their path. I saw that revelation as a good thing, not bad. I encourage those that may view H/H relationships in a similar light (“we don’t need no stinking dragon slayers”) not to cast too much darkness on men that go in harm’s way because they adore women. Its becoming more and more rare. If its not your thing to have a man take a bullet headed for your heart cause you want to take it on your own, at least realize that there are ladies that admire such devotion from a man.
Michael Davis (Davisstories.com)
Author of the year, 2008